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A New Year’s Resolution That Lasts Beyond Next Year

A New Year’s Resolution That Lasts Beyond Next YearAs the holiday season comes to a close, New Year’s resolutions abound as we typically vow to lose that extra five pounds we gained. Many of us go to a Pilates class for our “Core,” only to drop out after two weeks. But how about a plan…

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Aids Awareness Starts at Home

You know your kids, whether homosexual or heterosexual, are sexually active. Sure, they’ve heard of HIV that causes AIDS, but because they’re teens, they think they are immortal and will not transmit or “catch” the virus. They are too young to remember the scourge of the 80’s that rendered AIDS an automatic death sentence. No…

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“Over the River and Through the Woods, To Straight Relatives We Go”

“Over the River and Through the Woods, To Straight Relatives We Go” All traditional family relatives revisit roles of your childhood:  “the black sheep” who disappoints the family, the perfect sister who visits with her baby, and you, who always felt estranged for being “different.”  Somewhere between the cracked walnuts and the football game, the…

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GLB Servicemen Finally Get Respect

Tomorrow is Veteran’s Day. While we remember all our servicemen who nobly fight for our country, let us not forget the more than 13,000 members who were discharged since 1993 from the military for being gay, lesbian or bisexual. It has been less than two months since the military’s eighteen year-old policy “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”(DADT)…

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Making Nice

Your teen has been in school for almost a month now. As a parent, you worry about him being treated as an outsider. Is he being bullied? Does he only hang out with only girls? Are his only friends, like him, forced into a segregated minority of gays and lesbians? What is a parent to…

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What Cuomo Has Wrought Let No Town Clerk Put Asunder

Town Clerk Rose Marie Belforti at work Deirdre DiBiaggio, who owns a Finger Lakes working farm, decided she wanted to get married to her lover of ten years, a filmmaker. So, she went to the Town Clerk’s office in nearby Ledyard, New York, to apply for a marriage license. The Town Clerk, Rose Marie Belforti,…

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Caspian

Caspian Julius, Welcome!

The announcement read: “Baby and parents are doing well, baby has learned to cry already. No gifts please, just nice thoughts for Caspian, humankind, the planet, and the universe.”   Caspian Julius was born on September 30, 2011. I don’t know if he was produced by artificial insemination or adoption. Nor does the public. What…

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DADT

Ding, Dong! The Wicked DADT Is Dead!

The Military Thought You Had To Be Straight to Shoot Straight Gays in the military have been fighting an uphill battle since 1982 when The Department of Defense officially put in writing that “homosexuality was incompatible with military service.” Between 1993 with the Clinton era compromise “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy and the 2011 repeal…

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Parental Homework for Anti-Bullying Defenses

On my last post, I gave readers tips and links for parents to practice anti-bullying defenses at home with their teen. Now, I am giving you additional suggestions from Donna A. Henderson, Professor at Wake Forest’s Counseling Department: To find out what’s going on at school, and what types of situations your child may face,…

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Anti-Bullying Tactics Begin At Home

Whether it’s “cyberbullying,” or bullying in person, Lisa Furst, LMSW, Director of Education with the Mental Health Association of New York City (MHA-NYC), has these suggestions for parents to practice—yes, practice. Here’s her homework for parents: Talk daily to your teen and find about their school lives and their relationships with friends and peers.  …

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