Straight Parent, Gay Kid
Blew Your Child’s Coming Out? Ways to Recover
In my last post, I shared tips on what NOT to say to your gay child after he/she has come out – you know, stuff they would NOT want to hear. But suppose, during your child’s revelation, you felt threatened and scarred, and like a frightened animal, lashed out – not with biting or violent attacks,…
10 Things Your Gay Child Does NOT Want to Hear From You
You may consider it a compliment that your gay child feels close enough to you to reveal his true self, especially if he thinks his revelation is going to disappoint you. Or you may feel proud that your child is so self-aware that he knows his sexual orientation at a tender age. Or you may…
What to Say to Your Child’s Coming Out
Prepare Yourself for the Unexpected Most parents, according to research, are broadsided by the child’s news that he or she is gay. Like many parents, you may have suspected that your child’s sexual orientation since childhood, but to actually hear the confession from your child’s lips may dredge up a host of reactions: pride that…
Bert and Ernie Snuggle on New Yorker Cover
Conservatives Act As If It’s a Punch and Judy Show Put Sesame Street’s popular and long-standing muppets “Bert and Ernie” snuggling on the cover of the erudite New Yorker ( July 8 & 15) and what do you get? Some, like me, think it’s cute and reflective of the majority of this country’s favorable views…
Skim Milk Version of Marriage Spoiled, Sort Of
End of Proposition 8 and DOMA On June 26, 2013, the Supreme Court of the United States (Scotus) ruled, 5 to 4, that Section 3 of DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) that defined marriage as only for heterosexuals, was unconstitutional. “By seeking to displace this protection and treating these persons as living in marriages less…
June is Gay Pride Month
“June is Busting Out All Over” The Gay Marriage Map June is Gay Pride Month, as recently proclaimed by President Obama. It’s also the most popular time for heterosexuals to marry in any state they choose. Gays and lesbians do not have that privilege. Same-sex marriage is limited to twelve U.S. states and the District…
Boy Scouts Take Baby Steps for Gay Youth
But Still Dance Around Gay Leaders On May 23rd, the Boy Scout Council of America, headquartered in Texas, approved a half-measure that would allow openly gay Scouts into the organization for the first time, effective January 1. The historic decision was approved by 60% of approximately 1,400 volunteer leaders from across the United States. The…
“That’s so Gay “Presumption
I recently read on-line in GAYSTARNEWS, May 16. 2013, that Glee star, Matthew Morrison, aka Will Schuster, Spanish teacher and Glee Club coach, had to come out straight to a magazine writer who thought he was gay. Of course, the writer/interviewer should have done his homework before presuming anything about this talented singer, songwriter, and…
Family is Family. Adoption, Foster Care or Biological
Yesterday was Mother’s Day and I realized how lucky I was to have two children. If it weren’t for adoption and the gift of life from two birth mothers, whom I never knew, I would not be a parent. I would not have been celebrating Mother’s Day nor the past joys that comes from the…
34, Black, and Gay
Which one is defining him? Last Monday, NBA free agent Jason Collins came out in a first person essay in Sports Illustrated online which began “I’m a 34-year-old NBA center. I’m black. And I’m gay.” It was a gutsy move as it made the 7’ ex-Washington Wizards center the first openly gay male athlete who…