Straight Parent, Gay Kid

National Forgiveness Day – Not With a Bang but a Whimper

I’m sure most of you did not know that June 26, 2014 was Forgiveness Day.  It wasn’t recorded on your Smartphone, discussed in church or advertised as a Hallmark moment. The day went unnoticed.Guilty Thoughts PlagueYou have to sin in order to be forgiven.  Many straight parents when their children come out, feel as if…

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Another Bride, Another June

 Not Automatic If You’re Lesbian The well-known song written by Kahn and Donaldson “Another bride/Another June/Another sunny honeymoon/Another season, Another reason/for makin’ whoopee” is a reality for heterosexuals.  But for lesbians and gays , marriage is not even possible unless they marry in the nineteen states and Washington, D.C. where same-sex marriage is legal. The…

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The Little Stamp With The L-A-R-G-E Message

Harvey Milk Stamp Creates Controversy How many Harvey Milk stamps have been “returned to sender?”  Since the U.S. Postal Office has issued the stamp on May 22nd, the date of slain gay rights activist Milk’s birthday, the American Family Association (AFA) has urged the public to trade the stamp for one of the United States…

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Gay Pride Month, Marching Optional

President Obama has declared June as Gay Pride month. Events are planned across the United States, from San Francisco to New York and all states in between, to celebrate the achievements of the LGBT population and show solidarity not only with these groups but also their straight allies.  Yet, as the straight mother of a…

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We Don’t Need to Know Everything About a Celebrity!

Theatre critic Robert Hofler’s critique of Lincoln Center’s Winter 2014 issue’s lack of mention of playwright Moss Hart’s supposed homosexuality or bisexuality can be read in The Advocate.com’s “Op-Ed: Moss Hart and Posthumous Closeting.”  Hart’s only book, a memoir Act One, written in 1959, and revived at Lincoln Center now, does not delve into the…

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Unsung Heroes

This Memorial Day, let us be mindful of not only the WWII and Korean veterans who fought in so-called “acceptable” wars, but also those of the unpopular wars that followed.  My husband, a Vietnam War veteran, returned home, with a purple heart, in 1968 to his country that was at war with itselfover whether it…

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Are Your LGBT Children Mentally Healthy?

May is Mental Health Awareness Month As a parent, no one knows your kid better than you.  You see him/her daily so it’s easy to notice personality or physical changes. Sure, teens can be moody; it’s o.k. to feel sad once in awhile, but a lingering sadness can spell D-E-P-R-E-S-S-I-O-N. We’ve all read about the…

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You Gotta’ Have Heart

Conditional Love Common Sometimes it’s hard for a Mother to love her kids unconditionally. Kids act up.  They fight with their siblings, beg for another glass of water so they don’t have to go to bed, leave pizza crust in the sofa just to name a few transgressions. To a parent, they are disrespectful when…

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“Mothers and Sons”: A Review

“Mothers and Sons” Offers Optimism About Gay Civil Rights When in Manhattan two weeks ago, I had the good fortune to see “Mothers and Sons,” author Terrence McNally’s sixteenth work.  It is a brave play that, for the first time, examines same-sex marriage from the perspective of three generations. It’s a four-character play headed by…

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Huh? What Does “Mostly Heterosexual?” Mean?

New Term Coined On April 1, 2014, I wrote a blog entitled “Primer for Straight Parents: Not Your Mother’s Dictionary of Terms!” about various definitions for sexual orientation.  Just when you thought you had all the terms down pat, here comes another one, less clear-cut. A well-known Cornell University professor of Clinical and Developmental Psychology,…

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