Straight Parent, Gay Kid

Do Cartoon Characters Have To Be Relevant?

The Little Mouse that could – that’s how I thought of Mighty Mouse during the 1950’s.  His song “Here I come to save the Day means Mighty Mouse is on his Way” started my Saturday morning cartoon watching as I sat cross-legged on the floor in my pajamas.  In later years, cartoonist/creator of the popular…

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Self-Identified Clothing Comes Out Of The Closet

Now, gender-queer persons have better chances to express how they feel inside with what they can now wear on the outside.  Fashion is starting to realize that humans come in all sizes and shapes and don’t need to be shoehorned into binary clothes (dresses for women, menswear for men), the traditional categories for shopping in…

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It’s Not “Sitting on the Fence” and Other Myths Busted

            In our gender binary society, bisexuals or simply “bis” are given a bum rap.  They are criticized for “sitting on the fence” and not choosing to either be a lesbian or a heterosexual.  Lesbians don’t like them because they sleep with the enemy.  Some see them as sexually greedy because they have sex with…

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New Year’s Long-Lasting Resolutions

The Weight Watchers sign-up line is out the door on January 2nd.  Gym memberships escalate after January 1st.  However, the common resolutions of losing weight and commitment to exercise usually peter out by February. However, dedication as a parent to your child should be forever.  Here is a checklist of resolutions that straight parents can…

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LGBT Terms Defined: The Gender Spectrum

It seems that society, or at least Hollywood, is becoming more sexually fluid and doesn’t like their orientation pigeonholed.  At the same time, there are more labels for the LGBT population than Starbuck’s has flavors of coffee.  To demystify some of the words and acronyms, here’s a glossary of LGBT terms. Asexual: A person who…

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Holiday No-Nos for Straight Parents

Christmas is a wonderful family holiday.  A chance to regale about the past get-togethers, to guffaw about the near misses with the gravy. Subject Verboten, For Now… However, one topic that should be off limits in this group setting is your daughter’s or son’s sexual orientation.  Even if you are bursting to divulge the news…

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When Homophobia Greets You For The Holidays

If you’re LGBT, you know that the holidays can be particularly stressful.  You can feel like an outsider in your parents’ home.  The feeling may be so uncomfortable that you want to crawl back in the closet. Treated Differently Your Auntie Claire may not ask you about your significant other, but she inquires your sister…

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“Stop, Look, and Listen”

The no. 1 complaint I hear from gay teens or adults whom I interview is that their parents don’t listen to them.  When they summon their nerve to come out to their parents and should have the mike, the parents interrupt by saying “You can’t be!” “You’re too young to know!” “It’s just a Phase!”…

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November is National Adoption Month

                        Did you know that LGBTQ parents are four times more likely to be raising an adopted child? And six times more likely to be raising a foster child? Erroneous Studies Yet there are judges who still contend that children are better off  (more emotionally and mentally stable) when raised by a mother and…

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Holidays Not A Good Time For Introductions!

                        While visiting at Thanksgiving with your new boyfriend in tow may seem like a perfect time for a quorum of your family to meet your special one, think again.  Norman Rockwell, it’s not! It’s not a pretty picture when you can’t ingratiate your significant other – when everyone is preoccupied with unlumping the…

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