Straight Parent, Gay Kid

Long Before Edie Windsor, Civil Rights Icon John Lewis Fought For Gay Rights

Edith Windsor’s same-sex marriage fight led to an important Landmark Ruling, in 2013, although it was limited to thirteen states and District of Columbia. It declared the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) unconstitutional and was signed by President Clinton. The bill defined marriage as a union between one man and one woman. In essence, Windsor,…

Don’t Think They Have To Choose!

Male Bisexuality is Real According to Multiple Studies At Four Universities  The Advocate.com came to this conclusion after reviewing data from eight studies conducted between 2000 and 2019 at Northwestern, the Center for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto, the University of Essex in the United Kingdom, and Cornell University in Ithaca, New York. The…

Parents and Schools Failing Sex Education

Yesterday, I listened to sex researcher Megan Maas’s TEDXTalk “How the Evolution of Porn Changed Adolescence.”  Dr. Maas is an Assistant Professor of Human Development and Family Studies at Michigan State.  In her work, she collects surveys and focus group data from adolescents on their media and sexuality experiences. According to Dr. Maas, the young…

Out At College, Closeted While Quarantined At Home

  You finally found your niche at college where you have like-minded friends who are gay. No longer are you bullied as you were in high school because you can express your self, your identity and your sexual orientation. You feel free because you’re out! But with college classes cancelled, you’re right back where you…

How Do You Interpret Sex? Trump vs. Obama & Section 1557 of The Affordable Care Act

History of Affordable Care Act When the ACA law passed in 2010, doctors and hospitals were prohibited to discriminate based on race, color, age, disability or sex.  The Office for Civil Rights at Health and Human Services Program issued a rule, a few years later, that when it refers to sex, it includes a broader…

I Can’t Imagine Larry Kramer Ever Resting In Peace!

The LGBT community is indebted to activist and author Larry Kramer.  “The fire in his belly” led him in the 1980’s to wake up the complacency of this country into dealing with with AIDS as a public-health emergency. A founder of the Gay Men’s Health Crisis, the first service organization for HIV-positive people, Kramer discovered that his…

What to Expect From a PFLAG Meeting

In the book When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know, co-author Jonathan L. Tobkes, M.D., writes that “in my practice, I have noticed that parents feel better when they realize that they are not alone and that there are people like them who are experiencing similar thoughts, feelings, and reactions to having…

May Is Mental Health Awareness Month. Are Your Kids Mentally Healthy?

 Life is not easy for the LGBTQI community. Youth.gov reports that lesbian, gay and bisexual youth have: much higher levels of suicidal ideation, i.e. 15.1% to 34.3% of lesbian and gay high school students have attempted suicide at least once as opposed to Heterosexual students who account for 3.8% to 9.6% of attempted suicides. More…

GLSEN’S Day of Silence to Speak Volumes

Every April, GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian, Straight Education Network), a U.S.-based education organization whose mission is to end LGBTQ+ discrimination in K-12 schools, holds its DAY OF SILENCE.  This year, the DOS will be held on its twenty-fifth anniversary, Friday, April 24, 2020. A Day of Silence may seem like the antithesis of what schools need…

What Did The Gay Community Inherit?

I was lucky to see “The Inheritance” before Broadway theatres shuttered its doors on Thursday, March 12, 2020, the next day. Playwright Matthew Lopez’s play, an import from London where it received an Oliver Award, is a “dramady” (part comedy, part drama) about gay culture now and in the time of AIDS. It was an…