Straight Parent, Gay Kid

Out At College, Closeted While Quarantined At Home

  You finally found your niche at college where you have like-minded friends who are gay. No longer are you bullied as you were in high school because you can express your self, your identity and your sexual orientation. You feel free because you’re out! But with college classes cancelled, you’re right back where you…

How Do You Interpret Sex? Trump vs. Obama & Section 1557 of The Affordable Care Act

History of Affordable Care Act When the ACA law passed in 2010, doctors and hospitals were prohibited to discriminate based on race, color, age, disability or sex.  The Office for Civil Rights at Health and Human Services Program issued a rule, a few years later, that when it refers to sex, it includes a broader…

I Can’t Imagine Larry Kramer Ever Resting In Peace!

The LGBT community is indebted to activist and author Larry Kramer.  “The fire in his belly” led him in the 1980’s to wake up the complacency of this country into dealing with with AIDS as a public-health emergency. A founder of the Gay Men’s Health Crisis, the first service organization for HIV-positive people, Kramer discovered that his…

What to Expect From a PFLAG Meeting

In the book When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know, co-author Jonathan L. Tobkes, M.D., writes that “in my practice, I have noticed that parents feel better when they realize that they are not alone and that there are people like them who are experiencing similar thoughts, feelings, and reactions to having…

May Is Mental Health Awareness Month. Are Your Kids Mentally Healthy?

 Life is not easy for the LGBTQI community. Youth.gov reports that lesbian, gay and bisexual youth have: much higher levels of suicidal ideation, i.e. 15.1% to 34.3% of lesbian and gay high school students have attempted suicide at least once as opposed to Heterosexual students who account for 3.8% to 9.6% of attempted suicides. More…

GLSEN’S Day of Silence to Speak Volumes

Every April, GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian, Straight Education Network), a U.S.-based education organization whose mission is to end LGBTQ+ discrimination in K-12 schools, holds its DAY OF SILENCE.  This year, the DOS will be held on its twenty-fifth anniversary, Friday, April 24, 2020. A Day of Silence may seem like the antithesis of what schools need…

What Did The Gay Community Inherit?

I was lucky to see “The Inheritance” before Broadway theatres shuttered its doors on Thursday, March 12, 2020, the next day. Playwright Matthew Lopez’s play, an import from London where it received an Oliver Award, is a “dramady” (part comedy, part drama) about gay culture now and in the time of AIDS. It was an…

School Is Out, But The Cyberbullies Can Taunt Your LGBT Child

God only knows when schools and college will discontinue shuttering their doors. Just because your LGBTQ child isn’t face-to-face with the school bully doesn’t mean he isn’t being harassed online, 24/7.   We’ve all heard about cyberbullying resulting in suicides for those who are being abused on-line. GLSEN that studies the climate for LGBTQ students…

What Traditional Couples Can Learn From Gay Marriage

Almost four years ago, when gay marriage was legal, a reporter named Christopher Katis from an LGBT publication QSALTLake,” interviewed me about whether kids of gay parents fared better than those raised by heterosexual parents. His curiosity was stoked by a study by the University of Melbourne that had released the first official results from…

What the Defeat of the HB Bill 1057 Means to Trans Kids in S.Dakota & Other States

  South Dakota’s House Bill 1057 that sought to block physicians from providing puberty blockers and gender confirmation surgery to help minors (under 16) change their gender was defeated this past week. It’s stalled for a year anyway and I hope forever! If the bill had passed, South Dakota doctors who were caught performing gender-affirming…