Last week, The New York Times contributor Charles Blow wrote about “Sexual Attraction and Fluidity” in which he called Miley Cyrus’s comments about her OMNISEXUALITY (Cyrus dubs it pansexuality) “charming” and “revolutionary.”

This Is A Role Model?

While Blow, a well-known commentator, points out that Cyrus’s attitude towards sex is representative of recent surveys about fluidity, I find Cyrus has gone a bit too far.  Her latest song “Bang Me Box has downright graphic lyrics bordering on obscenity.

I am sick of her gyrating, sticking her tongue out, and trying to shock.  Madonna and Mick Jaeger entertained the same way, years before she was born in 1992!  While I don’t expect her to remain the squeaky clean Hannah Montana of Disney fame, does she have to appear almost naked at every MTV and Oscar event? She is a terrible role model for teens.

CYRUS Supports LGBTQ Community

I admire her for launching The Happie Hippie Foundation, an organization serving homeless and LGBTQ youth and her song for “Hands of Love, for the movie about two lesbians starring Ellen Page and Julianne Moore, is soft and subdued, I think she was trying to get notorious publicity in her last two interviews.

Cyrus told Elle UK “:  “ I’m very open about it – I’m pansexual.” She also told Paper Magazine: I’m literally open to every single things that is consenting and doesn’t involve an animal and everyone is of age.  I’m down with any adult – anyone over the age of 18 who is down to love me.”

What Recent Studies Say About Fluidity…

Studies by Ritch Savin-Williams, Director of Sex & Gender Lab at Cornell University and author of Lives of Lesbians & Gays, and Bisexuals (1996) point to the fact that the young, in particular, don’t like to be labeled as one fixed sexual orientation.  Their identity doesn’t fit into one box; it’s fluid.  Even Alfred Kinsey knew this in the 1940’s when he devised a sexuality scale, with zero being exclusively heterosexual and 6 being exclusively homosexual.

More recently, YOUGOV asked British adults to plot themselves on Kinsey’s scale.  The results?  The survey found that “while 89% of the respondents describe themselves as heterosexual, the results for 18-24-year-olds are particularly striking, as 43% place themselves in the non-binary area between 1 and 5 and 52% slotted themselves at one end or the other.  Of these, only 46% say they are completely heterosexual and 6 percent as completely homosexual.”

How did Americans surveyed differ?  YouGov found, after using the same scale, “that 29% of under 30’s put themselves somewhere on the category of bisexuality.”

What Parents Can Say…

Yep, the world is becoming more fluid and receptive to sexual experiences that can’t be classified as strictly heterosexual, just mostly heterosexual. Parents, when they discuss sexuality with their teens, may want to discuss fluidity and terms such as pansexuality.  But throw in some morals while you’re at it, you don’t want your child to turn out slut-like Miley, even if he/she worships her!

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Wesley Cullen Davidson

Wesley Cullen Davidson is an award-winning freelance writer and journalist specializing in parenting as well as gay and lesbian content. For the past two years, Wesley has concentrated almost exclusively on the lesbian and gay community, specifically on advising straight parents of gay children on how to be better parents and raise happy, well-adjusted adults

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