Straight Parent, Gay Kid

When The Birds and Bees Only Fly Straight

As the parent of an LGBT child, you may not want to leave sex education to your child’s middle or high school.  In San Diego, parents picket sex education at their schools because they don’t find mention of anal sex, masturbation appropriate for middle schoolers. In conservative Orange County, California, parents can withdraw consent for…

If Straight Parents Don’t March, Are We Tolerating, But Not Accepting?

June is considered GAY PRIDE MONTH, but not everywhere.  However, you demonstrate acceptance, it should be at your own comfort level. Many LGBT people themselves do not feel it is necessary to be a crusader for gay rights just as some straight parents don’t want to march during the Gay Parades held in major cities.…

The Baker, The Cake, and The Couple Who Ate Crow

Last Monday, the Supreme Court decided the case of Masterpiece Cakeshop v. Colorado Civil Rights Commission No. 16-11.  With just two dissenters, Justices Ginsburg and Sotomayer, the Court ruled in favor of Jack Phillips, the Christian baker who refused to bake a cake for a same-sex couple, Charlie Craig and Dave Mullins who were married…

Coming Out: It’s Not Your Story!

It’s not a good idea to out your kids.  Let them be the messengers.  Their stories are highly personal and should be revealed in their own time when they are comfortable. Jeff Ingold at Stonewall explains that publicly outing someone “robs that person of the chance to define who they are, in their own terms…

Teacher Appreciate Week May 7-11

Teacher Appreciation Week May 7-11 GLSEN.ORG/thankateacher) For LGBT youth, school can be an ordeal.  They can be singled out, bullied, feel unsafe in an environment that’s supposed to be free of fear.  In fact, they may elect to miss school as much as a day per month because they are being harassed. Compared to their…

Are Your LGBT Kids Mentally Healthy?

                      What Parents Can Do To Ensure They Are May is Mental Health Awareness Month.  Do you realize that research shows that LGBT individuals are three times more likely to experience a mental health condition?  No wonder as they face health disparities linked to societal stigma,…

“But We Only Did It Once”

I remember seeing this striking headline for a Planned Parenthood ad at New York’s One Club for Art & Copy in 1979.  The print advertisement won a Gold Award. Fast forward to 2018.  Kids are having sex younger and some self-identify as LGBT before they even get to high school. Yet their sexual practices seem…

Transgender Pain Is Visible on Trans Day of Visibility 2018

  The career of Danica Roem, the first openly transgender woman to win election to Viriginia’s House of Delegates or the glamorous lives of Laverne Cox or Caitlyn Jenner are not typical of most transgenders.  They may be highly visible, but most transsexuals keep lower profiles. Why? They are discriminated against by society and families…

John Oliver’s Marlon Bundo Is More Than A Parody

Jill Twiss’s parody of Vice President’s rabbit Marlon Bundo hippity-hopped to No. 1 on Amazon  a day before the release of Pence’s daughter Charlotte’s children’s book about their real family pet entitled Day in the Life of Vice-President.  So popular, Twiss’s book sold out in a day and 400,000 copies have been ordered for the…

Who’s In Charge When A Child Comes Out?

When a child comes out, the family dynamic changes.  It’s a role reversal.  The child is perceived as being “in charge.” But you play a vital role.  Don’t “roll over and play dead.” Your response has real impact.  A parent may feel any one or all of these reactions such as denial, shock, anger, confusion.…